The year is 1991 and at the end of June I got married to who is now the most important woman in my life, my wife Amy. And on this day in 1991, I said goodbye to who was up until then the most important woman in my life, my Grandmother.
Grandma Jeannie, as I knew her, was, by her own description, a "tough broad." She grew up in the heart of New York City in the slums. Irish. 17 brothers and sisters and she was smack in the middle. She was always there for me. When my parents went through a very messy divorce when I was 7, she was there. When I needed a place to stay after high school, she was there. When I needed help in any way, she was there.
And when I needed a big kick in the ass, she was there to provide that too. She hated whiners. She hated people who complained about the deal they got in life, because she knew people who came from worse. She hated slackers, and she worked in a full time job up until she died. She ran the motor pool at Nasa Ames Research Center in CA. She knew Astronauts, and Generals. And when she went into the hospital, they sent messages and well wishes.
She told dirty jokes. She had a candy jar at work with a nudie postcard on it that had a sticky over the woman's ample breasts. "5 cents a peek" is what it said and had a collection jar for the candy underneath. When my aunt and I watched "48 hours" with her, my grandmother became frustrated by Eddie's inability to score a chick finally saying "Is he ever going to get a piece of tail in this movie?" I once came home to her laughing her ass off at the movie "Bachelor Party."
My grandmother married a man 8 years younger than her...he was still a teenager.
My grandmother embodied everything I love in a person. She was tough, she had a great sense of humor, she had a great work ethic, she believed in living life full, she was brash and direct.
We knew when we were getting married that she probably wouldn't make it to the end of the year. She'd never see her great grandchildren. I chose my grandmother to dance with at my wedding, my way of saying goodbye to the woman I could never thank enough for impacting my life. I'm never good at goodbyes anyway. We danced to the song below. Goodbye, grandma. I think about you all the time.
I see trees of green........ red roses too
I see ’em bloom..... for me and for you
And I think to myself.... what a wonderful world.
I see skies of blue..... clouds of white
Bright blessed days....dark sacred nights
And I think to myself .....what a wonderful world.
The colors of a rainbow.....so pretty ..in the sky
Are also on the faces.....of people ..going by
I see friends shaking hands.....sayin’.. how do you do
They’re really sayin’......i love you.
I hear babies cry...... I watch them grow
They’ll learn much more.....than I’ll never know
And I think to myself .....what a wonderful world
The colors of a rainbow.....so pretty ..in the sky
Are there on the faces.....of people ..going by
I see friends shaking hands.....sayin’.. how do you do
They’re really sayin’...*spoken*(I ....love....you).
I hear babies cry...... I watch them grow
*spoken*(you know their gonna learn
A whole lot more than I’ll never know)
And I think to myself .....what a wonderful world
Yes I think to myself .......what a wonderful world.